C is for Cancer and for Cure


This month marks the one year anniversary of a nine week trip my husband and I along with our youngest children took to Virginia. It was a trip that we embarked upon with much hope. My sweet husband would receive cancer treatments there. 

Proton Therapy is a wonderful treatment for prostate cancer patients. We would recommend it to anyone who is facing the decision of how to treat their prostate cancer, especially young men, who have a long life ahead of them.  We loved Hampton University Proton Center in Virginia.  The staff were absolutely wonderful, beyond words really.  Fantastic people doing a fantastic job of helping cancer patients recover from this dreaded disease. His treatments seem to have worked and for this we are ever grateful.  

Since I, being a young wife, have walked this road of prostate cancer with my husband…I wanted to share an entry from my private WORDPRESS blog from July of last year. In hopes that it may be of an encouragement, or perhaps some empathy to others who are going through cancer struggles today. 

It pretty much sums up how you feel when cancer unexpectedly enters your life. It is good at times to reflect and remember what God has brought us through. It lends a deep thankfulness to our everyday life. Below you will find that journal entry and those deep feelings of loss and fear that accompanied my husband’s diagnosis. 

If you are interested in learning more about proton therapy you can click on the link below to visit their site. Thank you for reading and be well. 


The following is my journal entry from july 31, 2013. Written just days after my husband’s cancer diagnosis:


It is a word that I have often heard mentioned and hoped selfishly to never have to hear in my own life or the life of my husband and children. Cancer.   When I first heard that my husband might have prostate cancer, I thought, “It’ll be okay, this disease is curable.”  Upon further reading, that is a grave misconception of the general public. Prostate cancer  changes relationships. It asks you to travel down roads, you would never choose for yourself.  It is often referred to as the “couple’s cancer.”  No matter how you look at it, it is STILL cancer.
For the past several days my emotions and those of my husband have been a virtual roller coaster ride.  We have gone from bawling one minute to smiling the next.  I realize things could always be worse than what they actually are.  There is a little saying, that “Into every life a little rain must fall.”  I believe this is true without the rain there would be no chance to truly grow.  For that I am thankful, but it does not make this any easier.
I have thought, “Why him God?”   “Why us when we have such a wonderful and loving relationship?”   “Why?”  “Will we ever be able to have a loving, intimate relationship ever again?”   “What if my husband loses all interest in me?” and on and on and on….I have cried and cried and felt I could not really talk to anyone because this is such a personal thing.  But I realize that there is SO much more to a real relationship than physical closeness.  These are the thoughts and ramblings of my mind during this tumultuous time.
Since Monday, our lives have been taken over by “RESEARCH!”  What to do next.  Looking at ALL of our options.  As well as natural concoctions and the like.   One we are leaning towards is Proton Therapy.  It sounds promising and since his cancer is stage 1, we hope this is a viable choice.  As it may spare his quality of life.  HIFU is another option, but is not an economical choice for us, since it would have to be done out of country.  Surgery is our last choice.  He is hopeful to avoid this.
Above all, we feel HOPE.  And at a time like this that means the most.
To close, the following is an encouraging quote for today:
There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope. ~ Bern Williams
Be glad for today!
Thoughtfully yours,

My sweet son carrying his dad’s body cast to the car on the last day of treatments. A very happy day for our family.

6 Responses to C is for Cancer and for Cure

  1. Susan says:

    Oh my gosh, Valerie. Your entire family has been through such a difficult thing!

    What a journey. So glad you have positive feelings and that the treatment was successful.

    We must thank God for our blessings every day, for sure. May He continue to bless each of your sweet family members. Susan

  2. Stephanie says:

    Oh Valerie, what an incredible journey – a journey that tried your faith and strengthened your trust in the Lord.

    I truly appreciate you sharing this with us, my sweet friend. You are a blessing.

    May the Lord continue to work through you and bless your life. Love and hugs!

  3. Anonymous says:

    C is also for Courage, Compassion, and Closeness. All of which you and Daddy have.

    Your marriage is one full of godly provision and blessings.

    I am so glad that Daddy was able to go through his treatment with you by his side. You were a huge encouragement through it all, while still being affected … perhaps the most out of everyone (other than Daddy of course).

    Optimism is one of the few simple keys to happiness. I am glad that you have it. Remember. Its contagious. In a good way.

    I love you bunches. Thinking about you while I've been starting my new job.

    Much love. Always.


  4. Valerie says:

    Dear Susan,
    Thank you for your kind comments. It was quite a journey, but we came out the better for it.
    Blessings and Sunshine,

  5. Valerie says:

    Dear Stephanie,
    Thank you so much for your visits to my blog and for your sweet comments. It was quite a journey, but God is good and we are enjoying sweet days together as a family. =)
    Blessings and Sunshine,

  6. Valerie says:

    My sweet Chloe…. I love you to pieces my precious daughter. I hope your first weeks of working the new job are going well for you. Glad we can visit through my blog.=)

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