C is For Cancer A Journey Through Prostate Cancer A Young Wife’s Perspective

Remembering Cancer

December is a special month for “remembering” in our home, not just about Christmas but also cancer. It has been three years this December, since cancer touched my family’s life.
My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer in his early forties. He had an uncle that died very young from this same illness. To say that we were worried, is an understatement. 
I am happy to say that my husband has been cancer free for three years! We are hoping for a lifetime of that freedom. So in honor of his remission, I am sharing a bit of his story. A portion of this is a re-blog of a past post. But, I felt that it was relevant for this time of year.
This month marks the third year anniversary of a nine week trip my husband and I along with our youngest children took to Virginia. It was a trip that we embarked upon with much hope. My sweet husband would receive cancer treatments there. 
Proton Therapy for Prostate Cancer Treatment

My husband at his graduation from cancer treatments. Hampton Proton Therapy Institute

Proton Therapy For Prostate Cancer

Proton Therapy is a wonderful treatment for prostate cancer patients. We would recommend it to anyone who is facing the decision of how to treat their prostate cancer, especially young men, who have a long life ahead of them.  We loved Hampton University Proton Center in Virginia.  
The staff was absolutely wonderful, beyond words really.  Fantastic people doing a fantastic job of helping cancer patients recover from this dreaded disease. His treatments seem to have worked and for this we are ever grateful.  
Since I have walked this road of prostate cancer with my husband as a young wife, I wanted to share an entry from my private journal from over three years ago. I hope that it may be an encouragement to others who are going through cancer struggles today. 
This journal entry pretty much sums up how you feel when cancer unexpectedly enters your life. It is good at times to reflect and remember what God has brought us through. It lends a deep thankfulness to our everyday life. Below you will find that journal entry and those deep feelings of loss and fear that accompanied my husband’s diagnosis. 
If you are interested in learning more about proton therapy you can click on the link below to visit their site. Thank you for reading and be well. 



July 31, 2013 ·


It is a word that I have often heard mentioned and hoped selfishly to never have to hear in my own life or the life of my husband and children.  
When I first heard that my husband might have prostate cancer, I thought, “It’ll be okay, this disease is curable.”  Upon further reading, that is a grave misconception of the general public. It can be just as deadly as any other cancer if not caught early. No matter how you look at it, it is STILL cancer.
Prostate cancer  changes relationships. It asks you to travel down roads, you would never choose for yourself.  It is often referred to as the “couple’s cancer.”  
For the past several days my emotions and those of my husband have been a virtual roller coaster ride. We have gone from bawling one minute to smiling the next.  I realize things could always be worse than what they actually are.
There is a little saying, that “Into every life a little rain must fall.”  I believe this is true, without the rain there would be no chance to truly grow, for that I am thankful. Although, it does not make this any easier.
I have thought, “Why him God? Why us when we have such a wonderful and loving relationship? Why? Will we ever be able to have a loving, intimate relationship ever again?  What if my husband loses all interest in me?” and on and on and on…
I have cried and cried and felt I could not really talk to anyone because this is such a personal thing.  But I realize that there is SO much more to a real relationship than physical closeness. These are the thoughts and ramblings of my mind during this tumultuous time.
Since Monday, our lives have been taken over by “RESEARCH!”  We are trying to figure out what to do next, looking at ALL of our options.
The option we are leaning towards is Proton Therapy.  It sounds promising and since his cancer is stage 1, we hope that this is a viable choice.  Ultimately, it may spare his quality of life.  
HIFU is another option, but it is not an economical choice for us, since it would have to be done out of the country.  Surgery is our last choice.  He is hopeful to avoid this.
Above all, we feel HOPE, and at a time like this that means the most.
To close, the following is an encouraging quote for today:
There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope. ~ Bern Williams
Be glad for today!
We are not promised tomorrow.
If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with prostate cancer, please consider Proton Therapy. It has been my husband’s saving grace.
Thoughtfully yours,

10 Responses to C is For Cancer A Journey Through Prostate Cancer A Young Wife’s Perspective

  1. Aundrea says:

    I have an uncle who had a proceedure done on Friday to see if his gall bladder cancer has spread. It is back after he was cancer free for a couple of years. In his letter he wrote that he too has asked “Why me?” But he concludes with all of the blessings that he has noticed since having this diagnosis. While it sucks, it can be clearifying and bring families together. I’m happy that your husband is cancer free. I pray that it says that way.
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    • ValerieB says:

      Dear Aundrea,
      I am so sorry that your uncle is suffering from this awful illness. I will keep him in my prayers. You are right that cancer has a way of instantly putting life into perfect perspective. I appreciate your kind comment and well wishes.

  2. Tonya says:

    I’m so glad the procedure was successful

  3. Lydia says:

    This is really good information as I do have someone in my life with prostate cancer. I will share this!! Thank you, and I’m happy to know that your husband has been doing so well.
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    • ValerieB says:

      Dear Lydia,
      We were so happy with proton therapy. It really is a gentle treatment and it worked for my husband. Hopeful that it will continue to be so! If your special someone has any questions, feel free to send them my way. I’m happy to help in any way I can.

  4. Jayne says:

    Gosh there’s a bit of stuff going on for you and your family isn’t there Valerie? Great that your hubby is in remission and good to know about your thoughts on proton therapy. All the best to you and yours x
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    • ValerieB says:

      Dear Jayne,
      Thank you so much for your kind thoughts. We are hopeful that his remission will continue. I would recommend proton therapy to anyone fighting cancer. It is a gentle treatment compared to so many others.
      Blessings and Happy New Year!

  5. Lynn says:

    I love those two words together: “cancer free!” I hope that is the case forever. Love and hugs to you! Lynn
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