C is For Cancer A Journey Through Prostate Cancer A Young Wife’s Perspective
December is a special month for “remembering” in our home, not just about Christmas but also cancer. It has been three years this December, since cancer touched my family’s life.
My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer in his early forties. He had an uncle that died very young from this same illness. To say that we were worried, is an understatement.
I am happy to say that my husband has been cancer free for three years! We are hoping for a lifetime of that freedom. So in honor of his remission, I am sharing a bit of his story. A portion of this is a re-blog of a past post. But, I felt that it was relevant for this time of year.
This month marks the third year anniversary of a nine week trip my husband and I along with our youngest children took to Virginia. It was a trip that we embarked upon with much hope. My sweet husband would receive cancer treatments there.
Proton Therapy For Prostate Cancer
Proton Therapy is a wonderful treatment for prostate cancer patients. We would recommend it to anyone who is facing the decision of how to treat their prostate cancer, especially young men, who have a long life ahead of them. We loved Hampton University Proton Center in Virginia.
The staff was absolutely wonderful, beyond words really. Fantastic people doing a fantastic job of helping cancer patients recover from this dreaded disease. His treatments seem to have worked and for this we are ever grateful.
Since I have walked this road of prostate cancer with my husband as a young wife, I wanted to share an entry from my private journal from over three years ago. I hope that it may be an encouragement to others who are going through cancer struggles today.
This journal entry pretty much sums up how you feel when cancer unexpectedly enters your life. It is good at times to reflect and remember what God has brought us through. It lends a deep thankfulness to our everyday life. Below you will find that journal entry and those deep feelings of loss and fear that accompanied my husband’s diagnosis.
If you are interested in learning more about proton therapy you can click on the link below to visit their site. Thank you for reading and be well.
It is a word that I have often heard mentioned and hoped selfishly to never have to hear in my own life or the life of my husband and children.
When I first heard that my husband might have prostate cancer, I thought, “It’ll be okay, this disease is curable.” Upon further reading, that is a grave misconception of the general public. It can be just as deadly as any other cancer if not caught early. No matter how you look at it, it is STILL cancer.
Prostate cancer changes relationships. It asks you to travel down roads, you would never choose for yourself. It is often referred to as the “couple’s cancer.”
For the past several days my emotions and those of my husband have been a virtual roller coaster ride. We have gone from bawling one minute to smiling the next. I realize things could always be worse than what they actually are.
There is a little saying, that “Into every life a little rain must fall.” I believe this is true, without the rain there would be no chance to truly grow, for that I am thankful. Although, it does not make this any easier.
I have thought, “Why him God? Why us when we have such a wonderful and loving relationship? Why? Will we ever be able to have a loving, intimate relationship ever again? What if my husband loses all interest in me?” and on and on and on…
I have cried and cried and felt I could not really talk to anyone because this is such a personal thing. But I realize that there is SO much more to a real relationship than physical closeness. These are the thoughts and ramblings of my mind during this tumultuous time.
Since Monday, our lives have been taken over by “RESEARCH!” We are trying to figure out what to do next, looking at ALL of our options.
The option we are leaning towards is Proton Therapy. It sounds promising and since his cancer is stage 1, we hope that this is a viable choice. Ultimately, it may spare his quality of life.
HIFU is another option, but it is not an economical choice for us, since it would have to be done out of the country. Surgery is our last choice. He is hopeful to avoid this.
Above all, we feel HOPE, and at a time like this that means the most.
To close, the following is an encouraging quote for today:
There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope. ~ Bern Williams
Be glad for today!
We are not promised tomorrow.
If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with prostate cancer, please consider Proton Therapy. It has been my husband’s saving grace.